Dating Website Matches Couples Who Look Alike

Randi Martin, WTOP, January 19, 2013

What attracts people to each other? Songwriters, poets and dating experts have been struggling with that question for years.

The latest answer comes from a new website The free dating site claims people are attracted to others who look like them.

“I believe similar facial features attract us to each other,” says Christina Bloom, founder and CEO of “It’s not that we are looking for ourselves, it’s when we meet someone we recognize something that attracts us, and I think it’s facial similarities.”

The website asks questions about people’s values and lifestyles, but the most important piece of information is a photo of your face. When the photo is uploaded, the company uses facial recognition software and an algorithm to identify partners that share similar features.



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  • So I’d be happiest with a woman who looks like me? And to think of all the years I’ve wasted on attractive ladies!

    • Svigor

      Wasted, eh? Sounds like one of those good problems.

  • David Ashton

    Does John Engelman look Chinese, I wonder?

    • Svigor

      I’m more interested in seeing his explanation for why, given his oft-professed love of truth and honesty, he was led here to set up his perch. Of all places?

      Hmmm. Is his presence here a tacit admission that his own kind are all liars and haters of truth?

      • Tim_in_Indiana

        And whatever happened to JohnPM?

        • Svigor

          Haha…conspiracy theory? They do both seem pretty foursquare behind our “Scots-Irish” overlords.

      • David Ashton

        He says he is a Nordic Gentile Christian, but they do not all look like Rupert Brooke or the Red Baron.

    • The__Bobster

      I’d say he does. After all, after a short time with the screeching foot artist, John Lennon certainly did.

  • The__Bobster

    The free dating site claims people are attracted to others who look like them.

    Well, I certainly am. And it makes for an interesting situation when the offspring look like neither of you.

  • NYB

    I’m reminded of that Scandinavian study which found the best mates for reproductive compatibility were people related by a distance of fourth or fifth cousins.

    As man evolved and thrived in clans or tribes, this partnering would have been the norm for tens of thousands of years of the human species. Familiar facial features are a clue to optimum genetic survival prospects.

  • Dude

    You can also tell a lot about a person’s character by their features, so this is probably a great way to find people whose personalities truly match your own. Do you guys agree?

  • potato78

    “White Woman, Black Man: It Must Be Love”

    Almost twenty years ago a retired public school teacher shared with me
    her theory of why we see this sort of thing so often these days. She
    said that white girls, being more emotionally driven and sympathetic
    than boys, and being taught in the public schools and by the surrounding
    culture that blacks have always been oppressed in America and are
    entitled to reparations, tend to believe that, therefore, they owe
    themselves emotionally and often physically to …………….

    • But why do women of other races shun Black men completely? After all, they hear the same message.

      • SintiriNikos

        The other part of the formula that potato78 failed to mention is that Whites are the oppressors, ie. women of other races have no guilt for said oppression of blacks.

      • Robert

        That’s actually a lie. A lot of Hispanic and Asian women go for black men as well. They all love black men.

        • Magician

          I see there are three types of non-black women who go for black men

          1. Obese women who could not find a mate from her own race
          2. white women who want to tell others around her, “hey look at me! look at me! I am not a racist!”
          3. A woman who genuinely loves a man who happened to be black (but maybe less than 3% of all non-black women with black men)

    • David Ashton

      I have posted before on the subject of miscegenation, which I oppose, but wish only now to put in the saying that men are just big boys. Literally more true of black men than white men, so the former have two advantages: they appeal to the maternal instinct, and have an aggressive physical masculinity which has a sexual appeal to some women. The all-engulfing culture of political “anti-racism” and dance-music entertainment then encourage this conjunction; it is a consequence of “cultural Marxist” indoctrination plus “sex, drugs and rock’n’roll”.

  • I know a girl that looks like she could be my female twin, she’s actually very cute.

  • potato78

    “We Mediterraneans are also outdated. We belonged to an earlier era. We
    created the basis of all the progress you see nowadays(or maybe we were
    given the foundations by an even earlier race?). Regardless of this, our
    time passed, we’re living relics. Our attributes are not of any use in
    this world of increasing technological advances. Our poetic and
    philosophical natures can’t get us ahead in a world were man becomes
    every day closer to fusing with the machines.

    We will also pass
    and I welcome this, that’s why I have no interest in breeding. We
    already brought what we had created and gave it to the ancient
    Scandinavians so they could hold the light for the future. We bred with
    them also to make them more beautiful adding our gracile features to
    their extremely robust, almost unhuman like phenotypes. This is a
    scientific fact btw.

    Now we’re just as obsolete as the”

    • IstvanIN

      Oh, not necessarily. It seems the Greeks and Italians are waking up. Maybe someday the Spaniards (real Spanish) and Portuguese will do the same.

    • Triarius

      Not this man of the Med. Most southern Europeans are very aware and ethnocentric. I am not sure if it is due to genetics or environment. But Greece is awake and Italy is one of the most homogenous countries in Europe with one of the highest IQs and a population that’s pretty large.

      I think you’d have to be crazy not to want to pass on these genes. Of course I think the OP above is crazy.

      • Diversity is Bad

        ” Of course I think the OP above is crazy.”

        This individual is a foreign asian juvenile (or simply mentally ill) who has been trolling AR for months while posting non-sequential links.

        He’s best to be ignored, but I still don’t understand why his anti-White comments and asian agenda has not been banned here…

  • potato78

    Top 10 Reasons White Women like Black Men.

    • IstvanIN

      I am so white I didn’t even know what number 7 meant. As for the others….the woman who wrote that is just a hopeless racist.

    • starlight

      Because black men and obese white women with very large butts are perfect for….

    • starlight

      “3) Black men always know everybody or somebody who can fix that, get that, works there or who has one. It doesn’t matter what it is but you mention it and they know just who to call. And you never have to mention cheap, they already know.”

      What a pathetic excuse for black men not being able to fix things

    • Diversity id Bad

      Potato78 is a
      foreign asian juvenile (or simply mentally ill) who has been trolling
      AR for months while posting non-sequential links.

      He’s best to be ignored, but I still don’t understand why his anti-White comments and asian agenda have not been banned here…

      • Michael_C_Scott

        His posts have been disjointed. Perhaps there is a group that posts under this name.

      • potato78

        How old are you?
        you are over or too sensitive.
        I did not post any “ANTI WHITE’ COMMENTS HERE.
        If you couldn’t stand it. Please do not read or respond my posts.
        my posts are just other sides of a story, or facts/observations.

    • JohnEngelman

      I think the preference of white women for black men is overestimated by some on this website. The preference of women for successful men is universal.

      • I agree. The percentage of white women who “prefer” black males over white males would be very small indeed. I think it varies from social circle to social circle. Age is also a determinig factor. I think the younger the white female, the greater the odds are that she sees blacks as ultra cool and attractive. The average 15 or 16 year old white girl undoubtably watches atleast some MTV. I myself see mtv from time to time when I am at the gym. In the span of a hour I witness video after video after video of black males kissing white girls, white girls half naked jumping on on the bed with black males, etc. Now you take a 15 year old girl and it becomes very easy to see how what she perceives as beautiful is shaped. In many ways, it is the most basic and primitive method brainwashing. “Saturation”

        Then you throw in how white males are now depicted in the history books that these girls get spoonfed at their local indoctrination center. Then you factor in how advertisements, TV sitcoms, and most other popular media portray white males and you have a perfect scenario for a black coolio to score with a young naive white girl. Heck, half of the black dudes work is already done for him.

        I think a big problem is the way we Euro-American males were raised. Many of us were raised with a father in the house who mentored us. Some of us had Grand fathers as well to look upon as a example. These men taught us much about the way we should relate, and interact with the opposite sex.

        The dynamics of male/female relations have done such a 360 in the last 25 years however. As a result, many Euro-American males of my generation don’t really know how to pproach females in a way that will maximize their success rate. I learned very early in my teenage years. The way that my father and Grandfather trained me to deal with women was very stupid. God bless both of them, as they taught me most everything I know about the world around me. They both also instilled pride in me for my Euro-American heritage. However when it came to women, the old men were lost in the woods.

        In closing, I have travelled to many countries in my life. Ironically, the black male has the highest value in those countries where he is always lamenting the fact that he is disenfranchised. Northern Europe, some of western Europe, the UK, Australia, Canada, the USA, etc. However once you leave those bastions of European civility, the African quickly becomes just merely another African. Now I am not talking about celebrities. Obviously Michael Jackson and Oprah Winfrey would have fans all over the world. However the notion of black male superiority is very much a modern day western creation.

        • David Ashton

          The media promotion of black male x white

  • bigone4u

    Masculinity is in my opinion partly but crucially defined by the aggressive pursuit of a mate. A gay male can thus be masculine. In the straight world, women are attracted to masculinity, while men are attracted to femininity. It is not someone with my facial features that attracts me or else I might prefer to mate with my sisters or cousins. It is whether in my own mind I associate a particular look and way of acting with feminine beauty. Furthermore, I would reject a dating service that matches on faces, because there is a certain body type that is probably more important to me, i.e., above average body with below average face is fine. For women, I suspect that the impression of a man being a protector and provider is a paramount factor in the mating game.

  • Steven Bannister

    Ha! I just went to the website and the first thing I saw was a white woman with a black man!

  • Ralph J.

    Forget the photography. If you are doing OK with your wife, see if you can get her consent to bring one or two of her sisters “on board”. It happens , necessarily quietly, more often than
    you’d think. As as sexuality goes, it’s fairly eugenic.