Why Don’t Whites Have Black Friends?

Tanner Colby, CNN, August 19, 2013

“So, how many black friends do you have now?”

It’s a question I get asked a lot, ever since I set out five years ago to find out why I, your typical middle-class white person, had no black friends at all.

I do have black friends now, actually. Several. But I rarely offer that information when asked, because to ask white people how many black friends they have is to pose the wrong question.

Recently, a Reuters poll came out showing that 40% of white Americans have zero nonwhite friends, and only 20% of white Americans have five or more nonwhite friends. People seemed shocked that the numbers were so bad.

Personally, I was surprised that they were so good. America remains a deeply segregated and divided country. Even accounting for institutional and socioeconomic barriers, in the places we have the opportunity to integrate—the high school cafeteria, for instance—we largely don’t.

The Reuters survey itself is misleading, lumping all minorities together under the vague heading of “nonwhite.” Depending on what part of the country you live in (e.g, anywhere but Minnesota or Wyoming), it’s not uncommon to have Asian or Hispanic friends.

But the social divide between whites and those groups is more a function of the slow-rolling, generational process of immigrant assimilation. That is a wholly different phenomenon from the social divide between whites and blacks, which is the product of 400 years of slavery and segregation. That’s the social divide we should worry about, and if the poll had focused on that, the numbers would surely have been much worse.

The reason why “How many black friends do you have?” is such a terrible question is because it shows how we typically talk when we talk about race. Even when we try to talk about race in a constructive way, we usually make black people the object of the sentence, rarely the subject.

Black friends are the things to be acquired to prove one is not racist. The way the question is asked accords black people no agency, nor does it reveal anything about the real character of the white person being queried.

What you really want to know is not “How many black friends do I have?” but rather, “Have I become the type of individual that a black person might choose to be friends with?” That’s a real question. {snip}

White people are products of their own whitewashed, sanitized environment. Black people have been systematically excluded from white neighborhoods. Black stories rarely surface in popular culture. The history of race in high school textbooks has been boiled down to a handful of bedtime stories about Jackie Robinson and Rosa Parks. {snip}

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Even when programs like school busing and affirmative action give black people access to white spaces, when those people go to climb the social ladder there’s nothing there for them to grab onto, because there’s very little reciprocal effort coming from the other direction. It’s high effort and low reward.

The result is that black people end up with integration fatigue. Many black writers responded to the Reuters poll with essays on why they didn’t want white friends, and didn’t need them. White friends weren’t worth the bother.

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Interracial friendships, social bonds across the color line, are a key factor in putting the sins of America’s past behind us. But it’s not something that’s accomplished by white people knowing lots of black people. It helps if white people know how to be better white people.

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  • Herman

    Black people don’t even get along with each other.
    But whites are suppose to become great friends with blacks.
    The same way they do on TV and in the Movies.

  • Ed_NY

    Never happen. If a black ever sets foot in my house, he will not like the welcome he receives.

    • David Ashton

      Gas man, plumber, policeman, take-away delivery man, &c ? Just wondering.

    • When you step foot in a jail cell, you won’t like it either.

  • Ed_NY

    “The result is that black people end up with integration fatigue.”

    BS, they demand integration. I have had more then my fair share of integration or diversity. If they suffer from integration fatigue, I will not be insulted if they never speak to me again.

    • BlarneyMiller

      Actually, black people want all the benefits of integration (redistribution of white wealth, set aside jobs at white owned companies, etc.), but they want to maintain segregation when they control a city’s government, when a black community is about to be gentrified, anD a segregated identity with non-assimilated dress and names. In other words, they want segregation when it benefits them and when they can keep their own identity; and they want integration when it benefits them and whites can’t keep their own identity.

      • pcmustgo

        Ditto for the other non-white groups, in their own little ways, perhaps not as strongly as Blacks, but interracial friendships and mingling led me to believe the same about the other groups.

        Once again, the Double Standard.

  • Herman

    Notice the columnist, in a shameless, self-congratulatory tone, mentioned he had “several” black friends. I wonder if those “several” blacks feel the same way about him?
    Except for black men chasing after young white women I don’t sense blacks want to be friends with whites.
    Blacks see whites as their enemies (or rather scapegoats for their problems) so why become friends with your enemies?

    • CharlesFinley

      A groid contestant on “Last Comic Standing” said, “There, I said it! I love white women! And if I love white women, then I can’t very well HATE white men…….we need y’all for breedin’!” And the idiot white audience laughed and laughed. (Which was to say, quite obviously, that he certainly did hate white men.)

      • NeanderthalDNA

        Perhaps the gubbamint should pass laws forcing Whites to have black friends.

        We be so evil!

        • Tarczan

          They are, with the new housing laws.

          • NeanderthalDNA

            No that won’t work.

      • Sick of it

        It’s pretty messed up that anyone would laugh at something so vile.

        • Funruffian

          I once had to work with this Black guy and he was always eyeing the cute White girls, Asian girls and sometimes Hispanic girls. He never mentioned being physically attracted to Black females.

          • Sick of it

            That’s a different thing from what the so-called comedian said. He basically admitted to viewing white people as something akin to cattle, as well as a certain genocidal desire. Those few words speak volumes.

    • These “several” black friends he supposedly has are the usual kind of black friends that white people have, i.e. only between the ears.

      I suppose next on the civil rights agenda is state-mandated friendship race quotas.

    • Ed_NY

      Blacks also view Whites as an economic opportunity. Whites are good taxpayers for their gibmedats and they make excellent robbery victims.

      • bigone4u

        And when blacks get bored, we make excellent murder victims too.

    • Glickstein44

      Notice the columnist upped the percentages for himself & his family becoming a victim to either robbery(home invasion) rape & murder by his black friend’s family members or acquaintances….Idiot.

    • sbuffalonative

      Recently, AR posted a piece by a black woman who was proud she didn’t have any white friends.

      Maybe the author should be questioning this black woman instead of white people.

  • Irishgirl

    “Black friends are the things to be acquired to prove one is not racist.”

    Sure, you might end up dead, but at your funeral they’ll say, “At least he wasn’t a racist.”

    “‘Have I become the type of individual that a black person might choose to be friends with?'”

    Good god, I hope not.

    • Lagerstrom

      “At least he wasn’t racist” is probably heard out loud, or at least quietly mentioned at quite a few wakes and grave-side events.
      I don’t have any black friends; why?

      I have nothing in common with them culturally whatsoever. And the same goes with White people that like their ridiculous song-and-dance-comedy routines.
      What could we possibly talk about?

  • MekongDelta69

    “The result is that black people end up with integration fatigue.”

    MUCH more realistic quote:
    “The result is that White people end up with integration fatigue.”

  • Herman

    Do you know what I love?
    When black women say they won’t date white men.
    Think about it. Black women are at the bottom of everyone’s dating totem pole but they say they are not interested in the most well-off, law abiding men.
    Unintentionally hilarious.

    • Erasmus

      And even the black women held up as exemplars of beauty are very European looking and not of the big-boned, beefy armed Senegalese or Ghanaian type.

      • Jefferson

        You must have an extremely broad definition of European looking. Who are these Black female beauties who can pass for pure unmixed Caucasian in phenotype ?

        Halle Berry ? Beyonce Knowles ? Zoe Saldana ? They can not even pass for Sicilian, let alone pass for a Swede.

        Just because some Black women are not dark as midnight, it does not automatically mean they can pass for a European.

        • IstvanIN

          He said “European Looking”, not that they could pass. Geeze.

          • Jefferson

            European looking means you are saying the person looks White. Just like saying a person is African looking, it basically means the person looks Black.

        • Sick of it

          Heather Locklear?

    • Funruffian

      Black females are beginning to prey on White men they fancy physically. Maybe not as frequent as their male brethren do, but it’s definitely on the rise.

      • evilsandmich

        I’ve seen that a few times around here; puzzling beyond belief, and it wasn’t even as if the dudes were old and ugly or anything. At least with improperly raised white women who are attracted to black men there’s some vague ‘alpha male’ bit that they’re susceptible to, I guess (most white women I know would rather ‘switch teams’ if you get my drift); but the white dude and the black woman? I dunno, I can’t even begin to guess what’s up.

    • pcmustgo

      Actually, most middle class black women I meet have their eyes set on white men. But I get the feeling they only want white men so much now because there’s so many black female blogs out there pushing interracial marriage as the solution to their marriage problems with black men. Many white men realize this- that black women only want them as a plan B because black men aren’t working out. These black women like the *idea of white men and being friends with white women- until they realize they have nothing in common with us or find out what we REALLY think about Blacks as a group, while still being kind to them as an individual, which isn’t enough for them. Most want to keep up the marxist and/or afrocentric stuff while still trying to get a white male. I don’t know many white males, who should be credited with inventing 95% of modern things, want to hear about “blacks inventing everything in ancient Egypt”. So Black women think they can have it both ways- still be really into the afrocentric/pc race stuff, blaming whites and white racism for everything, while landing a white male provider.

      • evilsandmich

        It would seem to get awkward if the relationship inevitably evolves into some sort of “House N-word’ situation.

      • Jefferson

        Pcmustgo do you prefer blond haired White men, medium brown haired White men, or dark brown haired White men ?

        • pcmustgo

          Well, since you asked, I think I prefer the extremes of blond haired, blue eyed men, and then also the middle eastern/italian/jewish/puerto rican looking men (the latter not being fully white) with not much in between. But idk, I like tall, slim white males with prominent cheekbones in general. I do love blue eyes.

      • WR_the_realist

        Well, truth be told middle class black women who have gotten themselves educated and a decent job (no, not all black women are baby momas on welfare) are in fact stuck between a rock and a hard place. There are damn few good black men available. But as far as I’m concerned that problem will have to be solved by more black men cleaning up their act. It isn’t a problem for white people to solve.

    • Iron Helm

      Seriously? All over the web there are Black women advertising themselves to White men. I read a blog a few months back about a Black woman (paraphrasing) “stuck in the classic problem for Black women, finding only White men attractive but them only wanting Black women for sex”. The more educated the Black woman is the common this seems to be.

      • WR_the_realist

        Those black women will be happy to know that I an utterly uninterested in them for sex.

        • Iron Helm

          There are lots of sick White men out there sadly.

  • serious123

    Good man Tobey. Go for it. Get lots and lots of black friends. Not just the educated but be really integrated, invite some ghetto blacks into your home. Let them hang around and drink beer and dope a bit. Know the real black man like you want us to. Then let us know how that works out before we try it. OK?

    • bigone4u

      I see great possibilities for a reality TV show in your idea.

  • Evette Coutier

    Where is the article Why don’t Asians have black friends, or Arabs, Jews, Hispanic, or Indians, or native Americans? Because no one can stand blacks, but only whites are singled out.

    • WR_the_realist

      Most of the Asians I’ve known get along fine with whites (whether or not they are close friends) but come to think of it, they are as backward about not having black friends as we whites are.

  • For friendship to develop, two people must first have a common pastime, and while they are doing that together, they *may* discover they have common beliefs and ideals and then establish trust. Using the strictest definition, I have two male friends, either of whom I would die for with no questions asked.

    My best friends are my mother and my wife. Even my mother’s sister always called her “Carol the Good”. Sayaka wrote to me for three years while I was locked up, so those are solid women. I’m a racist, and I’ve been foolish before, but I’d have to be a total idiot not to have married Sayaka.

    I simply do not trust blacks. The “salt & pepper” couple across the street and I are on good terms, and I’ve given them vegetables out of my garden, but there is always a feeling of dread for me with them.

    • Erasmus

      Your point is well taken.

      Whenever anyone argues with me how “Diversity is our strength!”, *vomit*, I always ask her (almost always it is a dim-witted her) if when she meets someone new, do they first try to see where their differences lie or, instead, what common interests, values or background they share.

      It almost always immediately shuts her up and ends any further argument.

      Celebrate Diversity! (NOT!)

  • Do you think it’s because God Yahweh told his people to segregate or separate themselves from other races?? I think so. Israel is not to associate with other races except in passing, and Israel is not to marry into other races. God Yahweh has called them to separate themselves. So who is Israel. Very simple, the white Caucasian, Anglo-Saxon, Germanic, Scandinavian, and kindred people of today. They are the God Yahweh breathed people. They don’t have very many black friends because God Yahweh has separated them from other races. Those that refuse to listen to God Yahweh face the consequences.

    • David Ashton

      Why don’t the Anglo-Saxons and Scandinavians speak Hebrew like the ancient Israelites?

      • The Anglo-Saxons and Scandinavians do speak Hebrew. The Jews don’t speak Hebrew, they speak Yiddish, which is a German dialect. English, French, German, Swedish, Norwegian, Russian, Spanish, and all European languages stem from Hebrew. In fact there is a book that was written by a pastor in 1869 that is entitled, “English derived from Hebrew.” I think that it was Wesley that stated that when he translated the Bible into English he didn’t even need to consult a dictionary, concordance, and so forth. All he had to do was to fill in the vowels.

        1) yes there was a Garden of Eden. In fact the have found it
        It is hard to know the date of the Garden of Eden specifically because I believe that our time line started when Adam and Eve sinned.

        2) The Deluge of Noah was also real. However, the flood itself was local not world wide. The run off was world wide. There is Archaeological and Anthropological proof of it. Approximately 2500 to 2300 BC

        3) Yes I accept the teachings of the New Testament. However, much of it has been embellished, and scribes in the past add to the word. The Old Testament as well as the New Testament. for example: There is evidence that Mark 16:9-20 was added at a latter date. Possibly up to 300 years after Mark’s Gospel was written. One evidence of this is that there are three endings. When the New Testament says to “teach all nations,” it is talking about white nations. The reason, because whites are the only one’s who ever became nations. They are the only one’s who have ever started cultures and nations. There is no evidence that white’s may have actually started the Chinese cultures and civilizations. In there own records the Chinese even talk about it. Over 100 mummified remains of white people have been found from northwestern China to central China. These remains have been dated from 4,500 BC to 2,000 BC. They predate the Chinese culture and civilizations.

        4) The white Caucasian, Anglo-Saxon, Germanic, Scandinavian, and kindred people are true Israel. There is proof of this.

        5) British Israel makes one mistake. That mistake is calling the Jews of today descendants of the tribe of Judah. One of the tribes of Israel. This is wrong, and not historical.
        6) The Jews are Satanic seed line, that is why Jesus Christ called them the synagogue of Satan. The sin in the Garden of Eden was sexual. Eve had sex with either a fallen angel or a not Adamite species. Adam (#119, #120) Literally means to show blood in the face, to blush, to be ruddy. Only white people blush and are ruddy.The Jews are the most hybrid people in the world today. They have at least 112 different genetic diseases according to the John Hopkins Medical University in Baltimore Maryland. One in four Jews have one of these diseases. The Jews are Edomites, Canaanites, and Khazars. 95% of the Jews living in Israel today never originated from there. The oldest son that Eve bore was a mongrel, and God condemns mongrelizing. Deuteronomy 7, Deuteronomy 23;2, and so forth.

        7) No Saul (Paul) of Tarsus was not a Jew. However, he went through Jewish training. Paul even says that he is an Israelite of the tribe of Benjamin. In fact, only one of the twelve disciples was a Jew, all the others were of the tribe of Benjamin. Judas Iscariot (who betrayed Christ) was the only Jew. His name actually means “one from the town of Koruth. This town is in Esau Edom.
        8) Jesus was not a Jew. He was a Judahite. the word “Jew” did not come into existence until about 1660. The first time Jew is even mentioned in the Bible is II King 15:5-6. The reason the word Jew wasn’t mentioned until about 1660 is because there was no “J” in the English language at that time. In fact, Jesus real name is Yeshua, not Jesus Christ. However, it has been changed. Jesus was a Judahite, not a Jew. The Jews were known as Edomites. They actually weren’t truly called Jews until about 1860.
        9) The Sephardic Jews are known as the Spanish Jews. They are the smaller group. They constitute about 2 million. These stem from the Edomites, the tribe of Judas Iscariot. The Ashkenazi’s are the larger group that constitutes approximately 11 million. The come from the kingdom of Khazaria, or southern Russia. The Kingdom of Khazaria was a vast kingdom that was from the Caspian Sea and the Black sea east to the southern part of Russia. There are Polish Jews (part of this country is within Khazaria) German Jews, Italian Jews, French Jews, and so forth. As I said, they are the most hybrid people in the world today. The Khazar kingdom started approximately 500 ADD and ended in about 1,000 add when they were finally defeated by the Russians. Go to the Library and see if you can find the book by Arthur Koestler entiled, “The Thirteenth tribe.” You can also see if you can find the book by Shlomo Sand entitled, “The invention of the Jewish People.” You could probably google both of these. There are several reasons why the Jews are not God’s chosen people, or the apple of his eye as we are let to believe.

        • WR_the_realist

          You’re as nutty as they come. In Israel they speak Hebrew (or Arabic), not Yiiddish. The great majority of European languages are Indo-European in origin, whereas Hebrew is not. So European languages are more closely related to Farsi and Sanskrit than they are to Hebrew. That a crank pastor wrote a silly book in 1869 does not change these facts.

          • Adam is the father of the white race. That is where Farsi and Sanskrit comes from. However, Shem is the father of the Hebrew people. Hebrew actually isn’t a language but a people. It comes from Abraham’s great great great great grandfather Eber which means the colonizer. Hebrew literally means sons and or daughters of the colonizer. Jews have never colonized anybody or anything. Here is proof that they are not God’s chosen people. The language that the Hebrews spoke was Gaelic. Welsh and Icelandic is the closest of the original language of the Hebrews. Icelandic is the only language that hasn’t changed in the last 2,500 years. Gaelic stems from the Indo-Aryan languages. Israel, they don’t speak Hebrew or Arabic. Arabic isn’t Hebrew, you might mean Aramaic which is actually street Hebrew. At the time of Christ Hebrew (Old Gaelic) was actually a dead language. Sort of like Latin today. It was only spoken in certain circles and taught in certain schools. The Pastor in 1869 wasn’t a crank. He proved that English derived from Hebrew (Gaelic).

            Yiddish is a Germanic language
            spoken by Jewish people in many areas of the world, including Germany,
            Russia, Israel, the United States, Canada, Brazil, and Argentina.
            Originally a dialect of Middle High German, it developed among Ashkenazi Jews living in central and eastern Europe around the 10th century CE. The earliest known written document in Yiddish appears in a Hebrew prayer book from 1272. While this is a Germanic language
            related to German and English, it is written with the Hebrew alphabet
            rather than the Roman alphabet which used in other Germanic languages.

            This language
            contains influences from many languages besides German. Since the
            original Ashkenazi region included parts of France and bordered the
            Sephardic Jewish region in the Iberian Peninsula and southern France,
            there are some Romance language-based terms in Yiddish. The language
            also contains many loanwords from Hebrew, often for terms relating to
            Jewish culture with no equivalent in Middle High German, such as the
            word for “synagogue.” As the Ashkenazi culture spread into Eastern
            Europe, Slavic terms became incorporated into Yiddish as well. What were once the eastern dialects are the basis of nearly all forms of Yiddish spoken today.

          • David Ashton

            I think a reply to me has been deleted but I have seen it already. It was mostly sheer personal abuse or illiterate nonsense, and no longer deserves the courtesy of further comment.

          • Then why are you so illiterate. God Yahweh is giving you a choice. You either accept him or reject him. The nonsense that you sent me I have destroyed. Now it is your turn to get your head out of the sand and start to do some research. Stop believing Jewish lies. True Israel is the white Caucasian, Anglo-Saxon, Germanic, Scandinavian, and kindred people. They are the off spring of Jacob Israel. Remember, the covenant God Yahweh made to Isaac and no other. The Semitic people came out of the Indo-Aryan, or white race. The Adamites. Adam literally means white man blood in the face red, to blush, to be ruddy. Only white people blush and are ruddy. The Semitic languages stem from the Adamite languages. When God Yahweh destroyed Nimods temple and confounded the people by changing the languages from one to many, that is when all the different dialects came to be. God Yahweh even said that his people will lose their identity, and then in the end times they will regain it. This is what is happening. It is Christian identity which is the true belief system. There are many books on the subject. All you have to do is to research. All European languages stem from Aryan languages in which the Shemites or Semitic languages stemmed from. There is evidence that white Europeans were first in north America, Central America, and South America. They were here before the American Indians showed up. In fact at least 25% of American Indians today are direct descendants of white Europeans. The cloud people and the Selutrians are just a couple of examples. God Yahweh is establishing his New Jerusalem in the United States. The place of unwalled cities. There is also evidence of Phoenicians, Egyptians, Hebrews, and other peoples coming to America. It is the New JerUSAlem.

          • David Ashton

            That is somewhat more polite and better written.
            The research into Indo-European origins has been from the outset to the present in almost entirely non-Jewish white hands, and this also applies to much scholarly study of the Near East and its archaeology.
            The problems with the Khazar theory as the origin of the majority of Ashkenazim, as distinct from an element in their mixture, are (1) the prominence of Armenid rather than Turko-Mongolid features in their physiognomy, and (2) DNA evidence.
            I agree with the notion that white people arrived early in the Americas and in a region close to China. As for “Aryan” origins, you may have seen my comments in reply to Mr Engelman on this site.
            I did some research into BI and CI beliefs, which are quite varied in detail, some time ago (despite the reluctance of the BIWF to allow me to use their London library); and I still have a number of books by CI writers and their critics. I have not found the arguments sufficiently persuasive. I do not accept as entirely credible the contents of the book of Genesis, such as Noah’s ark, and less so your racial interpretation.
            One small final point: I have come across Jewish girls who have blushed, which makes yet another of your assertions dubious.

          • Problem with the khazar theory?? It isn’t a theory, it is a fact. You can do research on it. It is a known fact that White Europeans were in North America before the Indians showed up. At least 6,000 years before the Indians. At least 25% of the American Indians are direct descendants of white Europeans. That’s a fact. It isn’t your opinion. Christian Identity is the true belief system. It is the truth. There is to much proof of it.The book of Genesis is the truth. it is an historical fact. So is the story of Noah’s Ark. The Bible is about one race and one race only. God Yahweh is only concerned with his people Israel which are the Semites. The Jews are not Semitic. They are Khazars, Canaanites, and Edomites. Jews are the most hybrid people in the world today. You won’t find them blushing like white people do. They are not God’s chosen people I hate to destroy your doctrine, but if you keep on with this nonsense, I will continue to destroy it. Your entire contention is dubious.

          • David Ashton

            I have seen another reply on Disqus possibly also deleted by the Moderator.

            I do not think the Jews are a/the “chosen people”. The Ashkenazim are certainly mixed, though not predominantly of Khazar descent. Nor do I think the genetic data supports your assertion that a quarter of the American Indians are of white descent.

            Some people considered white have some non-white ancestry; I suppose Yahweh will single them out, and bump them off when the Time of Reckoning comes. I trust you’ve checked your own pure ancestry back to Noah. The story of his ark and the animals is literally incredible, and your date for it does not fit the archaeological evidence.

            Three items of “scripture” for you to consider: (1) Deuteronomy 23.7-8, (2) Matthew 5.44, & (3) John 4.22.

          • WR_the_realist

            I find it pointless to argue with people who insist on taking every bit of Genesis literally and then add their own weird interpretation on top.

          • David Ashton

            Fair enough, but it does provide an opportunity both to expose rubbish to curious third persons and to make a rational case for race realism, &c. In this case, it has been a little irritating for me, as someone who studed one modern and two Indo-European languages at university, to receive a ludicrous lecture on linguistics from a “religious” bigot, who cannot spell simple words, or understand the difference between the word “of” and the word “have” in English.

          • Bill

            Get your facts straight. The Jews did NOT speak Hebrew when they first began to return to Israel – legally or illegally. They spoke Yiddish, or German, or Spanish, or wherever they came from. They ONLY read and spoke Hebrew in religious services in the synagogues, and that wasn’t even a universal thing. They CHOSE to make Hebrew the national language. And they CHOSE to make Judaism the national religion, though many Jews particularly from Russia and the Russian dominated countries were declared secularists or atheists and still are today. The famous Kibbutzes were COMMUNES. Not Hebraic or Judaic enclaves. The basic language of the Jews in ancient Judea was Aramaic. Hebrew, then as now, was spoken in the temple by the temple priests, and learned in synagogues. The common language outside temple or synagogue was Aramaic, Greek and Roman Latin (the latter two out of necessity).

          • WR_the_realist

            Sure, before Israel was created European Jews spoke Yiddish or the language of whatever country they were in. Hebrew was simply the sacred language of the Torah, roughly the same relation that Latin has to Catholicism. But a key part of the Jewish nationalist program was to restore Hebrew as a living, spoken language, and it was successful. Jews in Israel today speak Hebrew (of course, they often know other languages as well). And Jews outside of Israel often learn Hebrew so they can speak to their friends and relatives in Israel. Yes, Jews had prominent roles in socialist and communist movements and some of the social structures in Israel were inspired by socialist ideas. None of this has anything to do with the nonsensical claims of isaiah14 that Anglo-Saxons and Scandinavians speak Hebrew, or that contemporary Israelis don’t.

        • David Ashton

          My only mistake was to write Aryan-Israel instead of “Christian Identity”. I have Koestler’s book and other material on the Khazar theory, but have not yet read Sand whose opinions, however, according to reviewers, would not accord with your “history” either.

          I have always been interested in the origins and relationships of languages, and graduated after studying (among other things) Anglo-Saxon literature. To say that English was basically a “dialect” of German, like Yiddish, would be nearer the truth than your erroneous fantasy that “all European tongues” stem from the Semitic language of Hebrew, which Jews do still use in the state of Israel, and in religious ritual and study. The statement attributed to John Wesley is false, and self-evidently ridiculous if you think about it.

          “Yeshua the Nazarene” was not black, but the so-called report of Pontius Pilate is not authentic (nor is the “Letter from Lentulus” just in case you want to quote it).

          Of course, if you claim that bits you don’t like have been added to the Bible, it is impossible to debate the issue. But then you have added the claim that Eve copulated with a fallen angel!

          This reply will do for now.

          • Yes Sands book does accord with my history. He actually states that the Jewish people were invented. In other words, they never really existed before the 19th century. They were known as Edomites and were despised by the majority of people. The Jews were literally kicked out of every European country at least once. Sometimes two and three times. No the Jews do not speak Hebrew. They speak Yiddish which is a German Dialect. This is where the Hebrew comes from. All European languages stem from Farsi, Sandkrit, and Hebrew which is actually Gaelic. Yiddish is a hybrid language, therefore comes from many sources. It isn’t original. Gaelic is the language of the Old Testament while Greek is the language of the New Testament. Pontius Pilate’s letter is authentic. Maybe what you need to do is to go to the Library of Congress to find out. You can see it there. No the statement attributed to John Wesley is not false. The Jews try to hide this in order to make you believe that they are God’s chosen people when they are not. 95% of the Jews living in Israel today never originated from there. They originated in southern Russia. There is also ample evidence that Eve had sex with a fallen angel, even the Book of Enoch names the angel. The name of the angel was Gadrel. So how can we prove that Eve had sex with a fallen angel or a different being. Here are some proofs:

            1) The name of the serpent in the Hebrew in Genesis 3 is Nachash. It doesn’t mean serpent, or snake. In fact there is no mention of a serpent or snake accept in Genesis 3. Nachash literally means magician, soothsayer, serpentine in character. It was a name of a person.
            2) When Eve gave birth to Cain she stated that she got a man child from God. However, she used the word “ish” for man. There are three words for man Adam, ish, and enosh. Adam means white man blood in the face red. ish means a bi-ped like Adam. Some think that enosh may actually refer to the oriental race.

            In other words, Eve actually said, “I’ve got a what is that from God. Notice in the 4th. chapter of Genesis it states that Adam knew his wife and she conceived, In the 5th. chapter of Genesis it states that Adam beget sons and daughters. However, he didn’t beget Cain.

            3) Cain has his own genealogy. He isn’t in Adam’s genealogy. Cain killed Abel, but yet Seth took the place of Abel and not Cain. Cain was the oldest and should of had the birth right. He didn’t have the inheritance because he wasn’t sired by Adam. Seth replaced Abel who was dead. If Cain was sired by Adam, and Cain rebelled against God, than Seth should of replaced Cain, not Able. Seth replaced Abel because Abel was actually the rightful heir of Adams genealogy not Cain. Cain was a hybrid, and God condemns hybridity. Mixed marriages and mixed relationships is a direct violation of the Bible. (Deuteronomy 7, and 23:2).

            4) If angel (sons of god) were able to take wives of the sons of men in Genesis 6. Why not in Genesis 3.

          • David Ashton

            I shall trouble to answer you more fully in due course, but meanwhile can you find the word “nachash” in a Gaelic dictionary and tell us what it means there?

          • Strongs Exhaustive Concordance #5175 from #5172

            #5175 Snake from hiss serpent from #5172

            #5172 Nachash Primary root to hiss to whisper, a magic spell to prognosticate. certainly, divine, enchanter (use X enchantment, learn by experience, X indeed, diligently observe
            #5173 nachash from #5172 an incantation or augury enchantment
            #5174 nachash from #5172 respect to #5154 copper brass
            #5175 nachash from #5172 serpent or serpentine like
            #5176 nachash the same as #5175 Nachash, the name of two persons apparently non Israelite, Nahash see #5154
            # 5177 nachashown from #5172 enchanter Nachakon, an Isr. Naashon, Nahshon

            finally #5178 nachoshoth from #5154 copper, hence, something made of that metal, coin, a fetter brass.

          • David Ashton

            Hebrew and Gaelic are not the same language, so you have not complied with my request. Just imagine a Scottish translator of the Hebrew OT just changing the alphabet and putting in vowels and, hey presto! his work is done.

            I think you might be confusing Wesley with Tyndale, who said English (not Gaelic) agrees “better” with Hebrew than Latin.

            Almost all European and some Asian languages, including English, German, Gaelic, Iranian and Sanskrit, are evolved variants from pro-Indo-European predecessor(s). Hebrew, like Aramaic and Arabic, is a separate Semitic language. This established philology neither a Jewish plot nor a Satanic deception.

            The basic meaning of “nachash” is “serpent”, though it can be used metaphorically (as also in the NT). This Hebrew term is a generic applicable to all snake-like creatures and often used with other words to denote a particular kind (e.g. Psalm 58.4). It roughly corresponds to the Greek (Indo-European) word “ophis”.

            You escape the usual severity of the problem with Noah’s family, that it was too small in the proposed historic timeline to generate all the racial populations on earth, by restricting the deluge to a small region on the planet, thereby leaving alive other species than deliberately drowned white-hybrids. However, adequate archaeological evidence is lacking of a local flood on the genocidal scale for that suggested period.

            It is some time since I looked at “Pilate’s Letter” and realised from its internal format alone that it could not have been a genuine Roman document, but others have brought weightier scholarly expertise to expose this literary hoax among others.

            I leave you to debate with other equally confident “Identity” advocates other details, such as the conception of Cain, the precise date of the Flood, status of the Sephardim, etc.

          • Really?? What makes you think that they aren’t. Remember, Hebrew is a people not a language. I can see you are under Jewish influence. Take Gaelic and Hebrew and put them side by side and what do you get, the same thing. The Hebrew language, as you call it, does not have any vowels in it. This is true of Gaelic. I think you better go back to school. Hebrew is not a language, it is a people. Gaelic is the language that they spoke. The Jews usurped the Israelites and claim that they are God’s chosen people and that they speak Hebrew. This isn’t true; 95% of the Jews in Israel do not come from Palestine. You have Ashkenazi Jews who came from southern Russia. Ashkenazi was a son of Noah’s middle son Jepthah. So they are not Semitic. They do not come from Shem. The Sephardic Jews are Spanish Jews. They come from Esau Edom south fo Judea at Mt. Seir. they are hybrids. They are not qualified to be God’s people. John Wesley, an English translator, translated the Old Testament by just putting the vowels in the words. This is a known fact. However, the filthy Jews try to hide this fact.It could be William Tyndale, but he was able to translate the Hebrew (Gaelic) into English without the use of a Hebrew (Gaelic) English lexicon. Well you are wrong about the languages. Hebrew (Gaelic) is all part of the Indo Aryan languages. Semitic actually means to come from Shem which was Noah’s oldest son. Technically there is no such thing as a Semitic language. The Jews call themselves Semites when they are not. They are Hybrids Edomites, Canaanites, and Khazars, which are not Semitic. Semite languages are English, Gaelic (Icelandic, Welsh), and so forth.Actually it is a Satanic plot. The Jews, in the Bible, are called the synagogue of Satan. When the Jews refer to god they are referring to Lucifer or Satan.

            No Nachash does not mean snake. If it did, it would be used as such. However, there is no word for snake in the Old Testament. Nachash is not metaphorical unless you want to believe that a snake crawled up to Eve and talked to her. I suppose you think that Eve ate an apple, and that that was the sin in the Garden of Eden. Bible students would refute what you say. There is no proof that Eve ate an apple, but there is a lot of proof that Eve had sex with a fallen angel. God even told the fallen angel that he would put enmity between his seed and the woman’s seed. Women don’t have seed, they carry seed. God was referring to the baby that Eve was carrying, or the seed in her womb. Psalm 58:4 refers to men that talk like serpents, or are serpentine. Nachash means one who hisses, who enchants, who talks with a serpentine tongue. It doesn’t refer to a snake. there is no reference to snake in the old testament and only one time in the New Testament and it is called a viper.I suppose you believe that a snake had sex with Eve or that Eve ate an apple. There is nothing in the Bible that refers to this. Even the book of Enoch names the angel that had sex with Eve. The Greek Indo-European (Shem, Noah’s oldest son, the Semites and their languages came from this source) word “orphis” is not in the Old Testament. So you actually believe that a serpent (snake) talked to Eve and deceived her to eat the apple? So I’ll tell you what.Go into the woods and if you see a squirrel talk to it and see if you can have a conversation with it. If it happened back than, it should happen now. I bet you won’t be able to have a conversation with any animal in the woods. The word Nachash literally means serpentine like, enchanter. It does not mean snake or else the Strong Exhaustive Concordance would say so. You have been deceived into thinking that a snake talked to Eve and that she ate an apple. No, it was a being, Possibly a fallen angel, that had sex with her and Cain was the result. That is why the Bible says that Adam Knew Eve and Cain was born. The bible doesn’t say that Adam begat Cain even though the Bible says that Adam begat Seth and begat sons and daughters.

  • Spartacus

    “Interracial friendships, social bonds across the color line, are a key
    factor in putting the sins of America’s past behind us. But it’s not
    something that’s accomplished by white people knowing lots of black
    people. It helps if white people know how to be better white people.”

    ———————————————————————————————————————

    Yeah… How about you go **** yourself ? Can someone, anyone in America, please – get a van and a couple of buddies, kidnap this imbecile, and just leave him in the middle of the nearest black ghetto ? If you don’t think it’s worth the risk, think about what happened to Channon Christian, and remember that, ultimately, the main fault lies with race-traitors like this idiot .

    • I’d like to get all of the liberals at once, but a certain liberal who regularly posts here has become astonishingly better. I’d prefer to tell the truth and make more friends instead of producing unnecessary enemies.

      • Spartacus

        “Better” in what way ?

  • Bo_Sears

    At Resisting Defamation, we call this theme a component of the anti-white narrative. What makes it interesting is how the writer is speaking in his “white voice” but in a black-centric way.

    In a way, it is embarrassing to comment on such a mindless essay. The essay is a bag full of disordered categories of discourse combined with the campaign of defamation against the diverse white Americans. Obviously, the writer is seeking to write in conformity with academic standards biased against white people, but the writer lacks “agency.” LOL

  • WmarkW

    70% of blacks with minor children are not married.

    So if blacks don’t even want to live with the co-parent of their own kids, why do you expect anyone else would want to live around them?

  • Erasmus

    Why not ask “Why don’t more Americans play with cobras?” or “Why don’t more people play Russian roulette?”

    While most blacks aren’t violent criminals, most of the violent criminals in the US are black, and that’s even despite the fact that they are a minority of the population.
    We tell our children not to use drugs. We tell our children not to drink and drive. If we’re concerned about preventing them from harming themselves through physical abuse, why in the world would someone not warn his son or daughter to avoid being around blacks, when FBI statistics prove that most dangerous criminals look like Al $harpton and Je$$e Jack$on?

  • Luca

    It’s not that I don’t like blacks.

    It’s just that I don’t like, loud, crude, foul-mouthed, parasitical, ignorant, whining, lazy, primitive, low-class, criminally inclined, lying, violent, over-sexed sociopaths.

    See; it’s not about race after all.

    • cancerous bananna

      Or the boom-thumpetty music at an hour when a working man’s got to sleep.

      • Sick of it

        Hispanic siesta music is just as bad when played all night long, every night.

    • Erasmus

      It’s just that I don’t like, loud, crude, foul-mouthed, parasitical, ignorant, whining, lazy, primitive, low-class, criminally inclined, lying, violent, over-sexed sociopaths.

      Sorry, buddy, your definition is code for “black.”
      (sarcasm off)

      • Luca

        Well at least no one can accuse me of racism. Unless they can hear dog whistles.

  • din_do_nuffins

    “which is the product of 400 years of slavery and segregation”

    Channon Christian, Eve Carson, Brittny Watts, Jonathan Foster, and all the other martyrs of White privilege now disappear into just a historical “product” of racism.

    • Erasmus

      Add to that list the name of that poor Aussie kid killed today in OKC.

      (Any word from revrums Jack$on or $harpton yet?)

  • Dave4088

    A black will only be your friend if he/she derives some benefit, usually financial (free stuff), from the arrangement. Like in the workplace, if you hold blacks to the same standards as whites then you are racist, but if you cut them some slack then you are condescending.

    Blacks cannot be trusted, generally hold white people in utter disdain, so I fail to see how an interracial friendship can blossom under these circumstances, especially if the white person is racially conscious, which only blacks are entitled to.

    • ricpic

      I have to disagree about the word disdain. Blacks want to get close to whites and murder whites. And both those urges are acting on them or in them simultaneously. By getting close to whites they hope some of the order they sense whites have and they so obviously don’t, some of that order will rub off. The chaos that marks their existence will abate. No, they don’t think it through, they don’t think period. But they sense that something is missing and whitey’s got it. Something more than money. But of course blacks are chaotic, they are pure walking chaos and that’s where the murder comes in. They murder each other wantonly and when you add the burning jealousy of and therefore resentment toward whitey, well, murder is always one wrong look or word away.

      • cancerous bananna

        Its like hunters vs. farmers.
        .. The two don’t mesh.

  • IstvanIN

    White people are products of their own whitewashed, sanitized environment.

    Because we like living in clean, orderly safe neighborhoods.

    My question: why don’t nitwits like this clown ever end up like that Australian fellow?

    • Sick of it

      Gated communities, private security, and rarely mingling with anyone who is not white. In other words, they are hypocrites.

  • BlarneyMiller

    “Interracial friendships, social bonds across the color line, are a key factor in putting the sins of America’s past behind us. But it’s not something that’s accomplished by white people knowing lots of black people. It helps if white people know how to be better white people.”

    That last paragraph may be the most white guilt laden drivel that I’ve ever read.

    • exLibtard

      You took the words right out of my mouth.

    • Truthseeker

      So the responsibility lies with whites, as usual. I guess building a prosperous, functional society and allowing them to be a part of it wasn’t enough. Now we have to change our way of life to suit their tastes.

      Why don’t they tell blacks to be the kind of people whites want to be friends with? I mean, considering our race has accomplished vastly more without their help than their race has without our help, maybe we aren’t the ones who need be doing things differently.

      • BlarneyMiller

        Whoa, hold on, you used logic. Logic has no place in a race discussion. Please use only emotion, clichés, and lies as dictated by “the elites”.

    • MekongDelta69

      “It helps if white people know how to be better white people.”

      I am a better White person you goofball. I read and post on AmRen.

      Next…

  • ricpic

    Whitey has to up his game to be worthy of Trayvon!

    • Erasmus

      Skittles, anyone?
      (I think that’s what I’m going to pass out next Halloween.)

  • Andy

    Even when programs like school busing and affirmative action give black people access to white spaces, when those people go to climb the social ladder there’s nothing there for them to grab onto, because there’s very little reciprocal effort coming from the other direction. It’s high effort and low reward.

    The result is that black people end up with integration fatigue. Many black writers responded to the Reuters poll with essays on why they didn’t want white friends, and didn’t need them. White friends weren’t worth the bother.

    _________________________________________________________________

    Where is the evidence that white people do not respond to blacks’ attempts to befriend them?

  • din_do_nuffins

    White skool kids are getting the message- not always having blacks in your group will get you labeled as a racist, so shape up, do the right thing, be a part of the change, and embrace Diversity by affirmatively modeling your lifestyle on TV commercials. Whiteness is outdated.

    • Libertarian67

      That is why I live in an area where my son goes to a school that so far has no blacks and is 99% White with a couple of Asians and a token muslime.

      • din_do_nuffins

        That token muzzie will bring more and then you’ll have a mosque in your back yard. Don’t rest.

        • evilsandmich

          I’ve lived near two of those in Ohio, call them ‘Saudi Oil Money Mosques’-built in whitebread neighborhoods so that the muzzies have a beachhead.

    • Erasmus

      Having blacks in your group markedly increases the chance of having a cap busted in your ass. The kids of liberals, who befriend blacks, will be killed off. Those who know to stay away from them will survive. Darwin wins again.

  • libertarian1234

    “Why Don’t Whites Have Black Friends?”

    Because all sane white people who are not so weak-minded as to be easily propagandized judge a person by the content of his character.

  • TheCogitator

    What you really want to know is not “How many black friends do I have?” but rather, “Have I become the type of individual that a black person might choose to be friends with?” That’s a real question.

    What utter nonsense. I don’t have any black friends, and it doesn’t bother me one bit. For me the question would be is the black person the sort that I would want to be friends with. Given what I know about their propensities, I doubt I would find many that I would want to let into my life. I’m content to leave well enough alone.

  • [Guest]

    >>>Black stories rarely surface in popular culture.

    The truth is that there is almost no facet of American life today into which that 13 percent of the population is not introduced, sometimes in the most artificial way imaginable, and it is almost always presented as wonderful, wise, insightful, honorable, and just generally superior.

    >>> …the sins of America’s past …

    We’ve had more than enough of that already. I propose that we spend the next several decades talking ceaselessly about the sins of black Americans.

  • Andy

    White people do not have as many nonwhite friends as nonwhites do because of nonwhite privilege. Nonwhites’ systems of social networking do not include many whites, thereby denying them access to diversity. We need to have social outreach programs to increase whites’ access to nonwhite friends.

    • pcmustgo

      Non-whites, especially blacks, form 100’s of exclusive ethnic clubs on college campuses… self-segregating in an aggressive, in-your-face way.. and it’s us who doesn’t want to be their friends? They make nasty racial comments, whine about white racism, etc, etc, every chance they get, and they expect us to be friends with them.

      I’ve already posted extensively on interracial friendships in similar articles- I had tons of them- they are doomed, disappointing and/or disastrous, fruitless minefields. Become friends with Blacks if you want to find out how much they hate you. Or you just want to experience the cultural alienation of being around people you have nothing in common with. Ditto for other groups.

      I was a white minority and my experiences being “friends” with other groups led me to eventually become a race realist.

      With friends like them, who needs enemies? It’s an awful feeling to extend your hand in friendship only to have them bite it off. Or to have to be all fake and lie to them about what you REALLY think about their group. Or to be honest only to have them get angry at you. Waste of time.

      Some whites have tried to make friends with blacks and other groups only to eventually give up and desire self-segregation. I am one of them. We exist.

      • pcmustgo

        Yes, I can’t tell you how many times I trusted a black friend, made not one racial comment to them (and they didn’t know my political or cultural views) only to have them SUCKER PUNCH/stab me in the gut with some creepy hateful comment about whites, especially directed at white women.

  • Rhialto

    I wonder how many of White male Tanner Colby’s Black friends would back him in a fight. How many would go into a burning building to pull him out? Figuratively, how many would cut him down, and how many would let him twist in the wind?

    Colby may have Black acquaintances, but I doubt very much that a White woosy like Colby has any Black friends (or any White friends either).

    • Larry Klein

      They would back him in a fight against whites or blacks. They like violence and your average street thug is impulsive and isn’t running calculations in his head about whom or whom not to support.

  • baldowl

    I don’t have black friends because I have standards black people cannot meet. End of story.

  • Larry Klein

    I had black friends/acquaintances in my late teens. Needless to say they ran into problems with the law. Now I don’t seek out black males as friends because of course they’d likely be obsessed with race, always wanting to lecture. And God forbid if a slur came out of my mouth. I don’t know if one could relax around them. They’d probably be schizophrenic in their reactions. They might laugh it off and join in the fun, or sucker punch you or report you to Reverand Al. No thanks.

  • Daniel Williams

    “Have I become the type of individual that a black person might choose to be friends with?”

    Indeed, am I pure enough in spirit to have earned this greatest of honors fairly?

    He makes it sound like befriending a black is on par with touching a unicorn or attaining Nirvana, like it’s an honor conferred only on the purest of heart amongst us.

    • pcmustgo

      Become a disingenuous liar so you can have black friends who still will most likely end up walking all over you.

  • JDInSanD

    I could rewrite this entire article and switch the words white and black and it would make more sense. Example:

    “The result is that white people end up with integration fatigue. Many white writers responded to the Reuters poll with essays on why they didn’t want black friends, and didn’t need them. Black friends weren’t worth the bother.”

  • NorthernWind

    I’ve had one Black friend in my life. That was my only non-White friend. What is interesting is that at the after high-school we lost contact with each other. Simply put, as we matured and went in different directions. I think that this is what tends to happen, as we mature our friend group shrinks and becomes more homogenous. Not because of any deliberate actions but simply because we take different paths. It’s not at all surprising when you accept reality (that racial differences exist). The friends which I have had longest are those in which I have the most things in common (i.e.: race, ethnicity, interests, and personality).

    Of course accepting reality is not something the anti-Whites are willing to do. Whenever there is a problem Whites must somehow be to blame. We’re inherently racist and standing in the way of progress. We have to change or die off. Obviously change didn’t work so now we need to be erased.

  • Larry Klein

    I understand blacks, the physiology that drives their behavior and that they act in their own self interests. What I don’t understand is suicidally stupid and naive white liberals and their endless ethno masochism.

    • jmaie

      All people should act in their own self interest. Why white folks don’t is the $64,000 question.

  • Funruffian

    This article is sick. It fails to recognize the obvious answer to its question: Whites are not interested in having Blacks for friends.
    I have had a few Blacks try to befriend me, or in their own way of befriending if I can call it that. But my feelings were not mutual and I am certain my sentiments are congruous with others here at AMREN.

    If Blacks claim they have White friends and girlfriends, it is mainly wishful thinking in their own mind. Nobody had the heart to tell them that this was an illusion or false hope. And on the flipside, if Blacks claim that befriending Whites isn’t worth the bother, it’s their bitter reaction to having been rejected.

    Does this article dare to address why so many Black males are preying on White women for sexual mates??? This endemic has been prevalent for some years now.

    • pcmustgo

      I was totally open to them and excited to have them as friends- but it didn’t work out… over and over again, it doesn’t work out. And not with the other groups either.

      • Funruffian

        I don’t know why some here think that Blacks hate Whites. I have had any Blacks wanting to talk to me and befriend me. When teaching classes, the Black kids will approach me and stick out their paws to shake my hand. The Black females always wish to strike up annoying conversation. I always try to avoid them in social settings, but they always vie for my attention. It’s like they want the White man’s Juju and subconsciously feel that touching a White man will give them special recognition or powers.
        While substitute teaching I would try to position myself so I didn’t have to be near the Black students, but they were usually the only ones trying to flirt or small talk. While talking with one group of Hispanic kids, the Blacks would eavesdrop and ask me why I didn’t like them. They are very sensitive when you avoid them like the plague. maybe they just liked me, but I spurned them as much as I could.

  • Romulus

    Black people cannot be white. End of story. I have liberal moron fatigue. Only idiots that believe in fantasy cannot grasp the fact, that racism , whomever is practicing it, is nothing more than a by product of the essential fact that all humans are NOT the same race. Period. With 7billion people all clamoring about the globe and population shifts in historically homogenous countries, problems will ensue.

  • Greg S

    As my mother always said, no matter what they become, the black always comes out in all of them sooner or later.

  • HJ11

    Why would I want a Black as a friend? They are not my kind. I would no more have a Black as a friend than I would have a possum as a friend.

    And, in other–economic terms–why would I invest even one second of my time to have a Black friend? What’s in it for me? How do I benefit? What do I gain? What return to I get on my investment of my time? The answer to all of these questions is Zero.

    • jmaie

      This is just silly.

      What’s in it for you? How about time with someone you like? (Friends are by definition people you like).

      If you decide a priori that no blacks are worth knowing, you’re only harming yourself. Those (admittedly few) blacks I choose to socialize with are educated, civilized and successful. There actually are some, believe it or not.

      I do not live in the hood. Avoiding large groups of blacks is not the same as avoiding all blacks. If you think you couldn’t be friends with any black person, so be it. Be proud of your ignorance.

      • HJ11

        Troll scum and anti-White bigot. We see you.

  • MBlanc46

    “[B]lack people end up with integration fatigue”? I’ll tell you who’s got integration fatigue.

  • willbest

    I had a black friend in college. He was African and I lost touch with him after he went back there. Stand up guy. There is a black girl in my youngest boy’s class and I have had the occasion at various bday parties to talk to the dad (never seen the mom). He seems decent enough, but then the neighborhood is priced for that. Not a lot in common and my schedule is full enough as it is, so that is going to be the extent of that relationship.

    I don’t know why its my job to go out and seek friends based on their skin color. This seems like a superficial mechanism. Personally, I require friends that aren’t hyper-sensitive, which rules out pretty much anybody that isn’t a white male since women and minorities have been trained from birth to believe they are a victim.

    • pcmustgo

      Many cannot understand how hurt/angry/resentful we are about all the white-bashing in our modern culture. Even Asians cannot understand that- they are not the targets.

      • pcmustgo

        Even my white liberal friends have confided in me what they *really think about the (boring, conformist) asians , and “ghetto” blacks. Even most of them have confided they’ve had incidents with racist non-whites that pissed them off. A good chunk of white liberals are actually not into the pc race stuff and admit they prefer white people, in more or less words.

        • pcmustgo

          I can emotionally connect and bond with whites over the racism thing- not so with the other groups, and each time I’ve tried, even with the most understanding, tolerant ones, it doesn’t work and leads to fighting.

  • WR_the_realist

    That is a wholly different phenomenon from the social divide between
    whites and blacks, which is the product of 400 years of slavery and
    segregation.

    Nonsense. I don’t have black friends because I have nothing in common with them. I am quiet and nerdy even by white standards. I have no television but more books than probably anybody you know. When a black man makes a fortune what does he do? He buys a big fancy house, puts no books in it, but has an over sized bedroom with four television screens. And he still listens to rap. What would I have to say to such a person?

    I have had a few Asian friends, for the simple reason they are a lot more like me than blacks are.

  • dd121

    Zero here so I’m in the 40%. I suspect the real percentage is higher than 40.

  • Juan Outtamany

    Some one you pass in the hall and give the 1/4 head nod to, isn’t a friend.
    ~
    A friend offers to help you without being asked. Use that as your acid test

  • kjh64

    “That is a wholly different phenomenon from the social divide between whites and blacks, which is the product of 400 years of slavery and segregation.”

    Utter nonsense. The truth is that people of different races, in general prefer to be around their own. This is true anywhere on earth. Blacks and Whites as a whole ARE different and Blacks prefer to be with Blacks on average and same for Whites, for the most part. Of course there are exceptions.

    • pcmustgo

      He leaves out the whole different cultures part. Yeah, Blacks, Whites, Latinos, Asians… we all have different cultures that , for the most part, match our races. Being around people of other cultures, even other sub-cultures, is alienating. There are even some white “ethnic” groups here in NYC I just have nothing in common with. Hanging out with them is disappointing for all parties involved.

  • MarcB1969

    I spent enough time around blacks in my youth to learn not to associate with them as an adult. I am not interested in being friends with anybody who doesn’t have my back when TSHTF.

  • Cannot Tell

    I’m an unusual black woman in that I have tons of white friends. Unfortunately, many of my white friends seem to be okay with interracial marriage and amnesty. It’s hard for me to stomach sometimes, but I guess the only alternative would be to seek out racially conscious whites and conservative blacks. And now that I’ve typed that past sentence I realize that the former group doesn’t usually want to associate with blacks and the latter group does not exist.

    • pcmustgo

      I used to be a white minority and have almost only non-white friends, mostly blacks and asians. (Many) Black women have all kinds of creepy issues with white women, especially in regards to interracial dating.

      • pcmustgo

        Especially creepy is all the “eye-rolling” black women are famous for.

    • pcmustgo

      I’m sorry you have to live with the stereotypes about blacks, but when x % of our experiences with blacks are nightmarish, you can’t expect us to stick around for the few “good blacks”. I know not all black women are Angry Black Women who hate white women, but enough are that I just avoid now.

      I over-dosed on interracial friendships, and now I don’t trust any of the other races. Every time I let another non-white friend into my inner world, I regret it. This goes for the other races too.

      • Cannot Tell

        I’m sorry about your past experiences with blacks. I’m glad you’re able to form good friendships with your fellow whites.

  • Bill

    Why? Because whites have NOTHING in common with them, and even liberals know they are treacherous and live in gated communities. Those that DO mix with the blacks, believing the lies and propaganda they were taught, ALWAYS end up victims of one sort or another, and quite often they end up dead. Blacks, as an innate quality, are the most vicious, dangerous, uncivilized, cruel, unlawful, incestuous, immoral, STD ridden, thieving, lying people on the planet. They are even more violent and cruel than fundamentalist terrorists, who despise blacks even more than they do Christians.

  • pcmustgo

    1. MASSIVE CULTURAL DIFFERENCES= “NOTHING IN COMMON, annoying
    2. Blacks and other Non-whites often hate whites, making them PAINFUL to be around. It hurts too much. Too negative, to upsetting, too much fighting, too much drama.

    Sticking with whites becomes much more palatable after realizing above points.

    And for the record some kind, generous, idealistic whites like myself were open-minded and gave Blacks many chances to be a good friend. They ruined them all.

    • pcmustgo

      3. (almost forgot)- they ditch you/preference their own people ahead of you in terms of friendship, meaning you are their side-dish friend, never in the inner circle… they prefer their own over you in the end
      4. they exploit the closeness of friendships and violate your trust by using the friendship as another chance to “get revenge” on whites, usually through creepy, nasty, mean-spirited and/or bizarre inappropriate racial comments.
      5. Black women are often extremely jealous of white women and angry at them over interracial dating.
      6. Eventually, issues like affirmative action, “ghettos”/”bad neighborhoods”, crime stats, the accuracy of stereotypes, etc will somehow come up and you will be forced to lie to them or hurt/anger them by being honest about what almost all whites know and feel.

      Not healthy friendship grounds here.

      • pcmustgo

        This article also fails to mention friendships, especially female friendships, are already rocky, turbulent places where people get hurt/jealous a lot. It’s hard enough being friends with a same-race person, trusting them, let alone trusting someone from a group that hates your group.

      • pcmustgo

        Also, I’ve had non-white friends, including asian women, screw me over somehow, and I could not help being suspicious if race had something to do with it. So not overt racism, but you can’t help but wonder, especially once you realize a certain portion of blacks/latinos/asians resents whites and are jealous of them.

        With whites, at least I know the fights we get into are not racial.

  • pcmustgo

    Even when I was a young, idealistic white liberal, it was hard to have black friends.

  • David Ashton

    I did indeed ask questions that could raise problems for some BI believers, who have the opportunity to answer them satisfactorily. “Prove all things”? You and “isaiah 14” probably disagree on most important points. If BI beliefs were agreed and could be proved, it would be very nice for Anglo-Saxons and “kindred” nations, though not so nice for anyone else if “isaiah 14” were correct.

  • exlib93

    Black people are no less racist than we are, the only difference is that they are sanctioned. Every black “friend” I’ve ever had was just pretending, so they could get something (money or some type of help) from me. They are worthless as friends and as a race.

  • Danimalius

    I’m the mirror of black people; I don’t want black friends, I don’t need them. They aren’t worth the effort. We’re not completely the same of course. My opinion is demonized, theirs rationalized.

  • jmaie

    My comment was deleted. No interest in differing opinions?

  • bubo

    I live vicariously through beer commercials on TV. Therefore I always have a black friend around.

  • WR_the_realist

    Isn’t his first name Walther?

  • WR_the_realist

    Actually the $PLC promotes exactly that — a day when children are forced to sit together with children of other races at lunch time. I’m all for it. Nothing will better foster race realism at an early age. Remember that the most PC whites are the ones with the least real world experience with blacks.

  • open eyes

    wow..just reading these comments I can see for a surety Whites will never get along with Blacks. Whites have soon much hate you can feel it. its so deep rooted within themselves that they just dont have any room for love. They never take responsibility for anything… they just like to judge others and critize …shallow minded..which one of you whites has the heart too just sit down and talk with a black person and treat like a person..without been soon sterotypical. Just remember white folks your Forefathers brought use here and we did all the work. So who are the lazy ones.? Just remember your side of people is not that holy ..you lynched,rape,murder and eat people.

  • Orion_Blue

    “So, how many black friends do you have now?”

    None. And proud of that fact.

    The article has to have been penned by a dewy-eyed female.

  • Orion_Blue


    White people are products of their own whitewashed, sanitized environment.

    No, that choice was taken away from us long, long ago. Especially if you can’t afford to escape from the squalor.

    Black friends are the things to be acquired to prove one is not racist

    Syphilis and AIDS are probably things to acquire to prove that ypu’re. Hip and with it, too, I suppose?

    The self-congratulatory tone of the article indicates how facile and shallow the curiously genderless- sounding ‘person’ is. Obviously the product of a pampered and sheltered upbringing who defines their social status and standing by the distance they can put between themselves and normal White people. This must be one of those self-haters who has a deeply ingrained reason for loathing and detesting their own heritage. I wonder what that could be.

  • Jamericancruzian

    Would rather die than befriend a White devil.

  • benvad

    We don’t want them, it’s as simple as that.