I Don’t Have Any White Friends. So What?

Demetria L. Lucas, The Root, August 13, 2013

Sometime last week, a poll was released by Reuters/Ipsos that found 40 percent of white Americans had no friends of color and 25 percent of people of color had no friends of a different race. Covering a broader circle of acquaintances to include co-workers as well as friends and relatives, the poll showed that 30 percent of Americans are not befriending others of a different race.

That “news” spread quickly, with an emphasis on how so many white people didn’t have black friends. There were, of course, Paula Deen jokes and giggles about that elusive “black friend” that nonblack people always allude to when they’re denying they’re racist, and someone discovered a spoof site (I hope it’s a spoof site; you can never be too sure) called BlackFriendConnect, where white people can rent a black friend for the day. There was a delight in chiding this chunk of white folks for, intentionally or not, self-segregating.

But even as I laughed and teased, I wondered“Hold up; what’s really wrong with white people not having black friends?”

Here’s the thing: I, like most of my friends, don’t have white friends. Asians, Indians and Hispanics? Yes, at least one of each. And not in a token “Here’s my different-race friend; I have to say I have one” way, but more like the “If you call me in the middle of the night, I will show up” way.

{snip}

I’m not entirely sure why that is. It wasn’t planned. I never sat and decided “no white friends.” I don’t harbor any secret loathing for white people in general, or white women specifically. It just sort of happened.

And maybe that’s strange, seeing as how I live in New York City, oft touted as the most diverse city in America. But my Brooklyn slice of life is as nonwhite as Lena Dunham’s Girls (also based in Brooklyn) is starkly white. From house parties and BBQs and weddings and Sunday service, pretty much everyone I invite out and interact with everywhere I go (except for work or other business endeavors) is black or “of color.”

What might be even stranger is that I went to predominantly white schools and universities, and half of my jobs have been in predominantly white workplaces. {snip}

A year or so ago, I wrote about my unintentional, predominantly all-black world for Clutch magazine in a story called “All My Best Friends Are Black.” It was a celebration of black sisterhood, a way to scoff at the surprisingly widely held belief that black women don’t or can’t get along. Some readers received it that way. Others insisted that something was wrong because I didn’t have white friends, and I should go make some.

The suggestion–in essence, “tokenism,” whether it’s encouraging black people to have white friends or white people to pick up nonwhite friends just to say they have some–is laughable. People–black, white, brown and all other colors–should select their friends based on who they mesh with, period. {snip}

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  • MekongDelta69

    Don’t sweat it Demetria. We don’t ‘miss’ not having you as a friend either.

    I know which ‘hood you live in Brooklyn, b/c I grew up part of my life in Greenpoint. You stay on your side of B’way (and other dividing lines), and we’ll stay on ours.

    The problem is – ‘you’ve’ never stayed on your side…

    • pcmustgo

      With “friends” like Blacks, who needs enemies?

    • Bleakvision

      There is nothing anybody can learn from a “life coach”. Be they black or white.

      • Formerly_Known_as_Whiteplight

        Well, they can learn how to delude themselves with self-aggrandizing “affirmations.”

  • bigone4u

    All blacks have many white friends, even if they don’t know them personally. The white friends of blacks go by many names: liberals, Democrats, government bureaucrats, university professors, social workers, and so many more. Why even I am a great friend of many blacks I’ve never met. I must be their friend because the hundreds of thousands of dollars in taxes I paid over my lifetime supported them, their b*stard sprogs, their liquor stores, their drug dealers, etc. Black and white friendship–ain’t it wonderful?

    • Romulus

      The billions in foreign aid packages!

  • borogirl54

    To be honest, most blacks and whites do not have friends of other races. So she is not unusual.

    • pcmustgo

      Most White Liberals I know (and almost everyone I know is a white liberal) has about one asian and one black friend. Nothing too close, but invited to their 95% white parties, etc.

      • Jefferson

        What about Hispanic friends ?

        • Formerly_Known_as_Whiteplight

          If you want to be burglarized by the brother of your friend’s cousin, go ahead and have Hispanic friends. But remember, I warned you!

    • pcmustgo

      Even more interesting was finding most white liberal friends of mine don’t even have more than one or two black “facebook friends”… and we all know “facebook friends” are often not real or close friends.

      For all the hoopla about whites and asians loving each other. many white liberal friends in super diverse NYC have NO asian facebook friends.

      • Jefferson

        What about Hispanic Facebook friends ?

        • pcmustgo

          No, of course not. Well, probably about as many asians as they have…

  • HJ11

    Good. We should all stay with our own. It is only some weak seed Whites (spit) who moan and groan that too many Whites don’t have Black friends. Screw these weak seeds. They are not my kind.

    • BarnyL

      The liberals have no business even commenting on other peoples’ friends.

  • David Ashton

    “You can’t choose your parents, but you can choose your friends”, at least until the left-liberals choose them for you. And why not outlaw same-race marriages, which are the most profoundly discriminatory, xenophobic, intolerant and bigoted social acts of all?

    • ms_anthro

      Don’t think for one second that it isn’t on the menu. They’ll stop at nothing to control everything we do, think, and feel.

  • pcmustgo

    I bet her “of color” friends don’t include many asians. Probably a Puerto Rican here and a Puerto Rican there. I recently read a similar online story from a Black woman who also admitted all her friends are black and it’s fine with her.

    What’s funny is Blacks try to form all these “Black/Latino” coalitions and groups on meetup.com. If you look into who’s a member though, all of the members are black, except for maybe one Latino.

    I also live in heavily non-white Brooklyn. I used to be colorblind and proud of it, and a good 80% of my “friends” were non-white. I now strongly prefer white people, however imperfect they may be. I have so much more in common with whites and am so much more likely to develop a long lasting, stable friendship with them. I can’t tell you how sick I got being the novel white friend. In fact, these “friendships” are what drove me to become a race realist.

    • MekongDelta69

      Yeah, but you don’t live in Bed-‘High,’ Crown ‘Blights,’ Bush’wacked,’ ‘Beast’ New York, etc., etc., etc.

      Because, if you did, you wouldn’t be posting here – you’d be dead within the hour.

      • pcmustgo

        Actually whites have taken over or are currently in the process of taking over Bed-Stuy, Crown Heights, Bushwick….

        Not East New York of course

        • MekongDelta69

          Decades ago (and I DO mean DECADES – “When I was a po’ black chile” (Steve Martin reference)), those neighborhoods were white (and so were all the ones in Queens, where I also grew up for part of my life).

          As blacks and browns moved in, it didn’t take an IQ even approaching double digits to know which ‘hoods were white and which weren’t.

          All the white ‘hoods (Italian, (very conservative) Orthodox Jews, Irish, Polish, any European (Northern, Eastern, Western, Southern – didn’t matter), etc.) were spotless and safe.

          All the non-white ‘hoods – well, you know the deal…

      • Jefferson

        If she went to Brownsville, she would be dead within 30 minutes. Brownsville is the area of NYC where mailmen are too scared to deliver mail.

        • MekongDelta69

          C’mon – You didn’t REALLY expect me to list ALL the black and brown ‘hoods where I grew up, did you?!

          There wouldn’t be enough room left on this page for other people to comment!…

  • pcmustgo

    What sickened me most about being friends with asians or blacks is that they are part of all these same-race ethnic clubs and informal ethnic social circles while expecting you as a white person to be colorblind and forever open to not noticing your friendships with whites are better, forever open to their non-reciprocation, forever open to them. Total double standard. If they are going to prefer the —-t out of “their own”, treat you like a side-dish friend, ditch you for their “own kind”, have creepy little resentments towards whites, exploit interacting with you as yet another chance to “get revenge” on whites, use you as a “white face” to walk around The Village (or other white social scenes) with, hang out with you only to realize they have absolutely nothing in common with you/white people, use you as a sounding board for minority-complaints-about-whites, as they do, over and over and over again, I will go right ahead and prefer “my own” too, for so many reasons.

    Besides, whites are more interesting than them anyways! All of them! Whites are more interesting than Blacks, Latinos, Asians or East Indians.

    • pcmustgo

      This of course, this problem I mentioned above is just an extension of the larger issue of WHITES HAVING NO IDENTITY- other than bow down and take a beating and apologize to non-whites incessantly.

      • pcmustgo

        I swear by god these same minorities act shocked, just shocked, to find out I and most other whites prefer white people (whether they admit it or not) while at the same time being members of all these ethnic clubs.

    • pcmustgo

      I find even “boring”, conformist, bland, not very intellilgent, and/or lower class whites to be more interesting (and friendly/friendable) than them. I guess it’s that whites are more expressive.

  • sbuffalonative

    I’m not entirely sure why that is. It wasn’t planned. I never sat and decided “no white friends.” I don’t harbor any secret loathing for white people in general, or white women specifically. It just sort of happened.

    Your brain is functioning properly. You’re not being motivated by demands to conform to artificial PC beliefs.

    • pcmustgo

      I had these non-white friends because I just moved to a new city, was lonely, and didn’t have many other options. I also literally felt it was wrong to self-segregate and discriminate in that way.

  • din_do_nuffins

    Blacks celebrate Blacks Only friends; Whites are racist for “not enough friends reflecting Affirmative Diversity.”

    From now on, it gets better for them and worse for us.

    “Hatred: The Time Is Now. Racism: It Just Feels Right.”

    -RevJeddy

    • Sick of it

      Once the government performs their latest population redistribution scheme, no one will have freedom of association anymore, including black people.

      • Whitetrashgang

        Yes so the tribe can easily control us. I myself can only see going down hard, what else is there? Nothing seems to get traction and every day is just a little worse .

      • din_do_nuffins

        We lost our freedom of association in with the first Fair Housing.

    • pcmustgo

      You are too funny!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • ncpride

    I don’t have a single black friend, and so what? I actually go out of my way to avoid them and with good reason. I certainly don’t ‘agonize’ over it, and could not care less what blacks or White liberals think about it.

    • Puggg

      I’m not anti-racist, none of my very best friends are black.

  • Tim_in_Indiana

    Here’s the thing: I, like most of my friends, don’t have white friends. Asians, Indians and Hispanics? Yes, at least one of each…What might be even stranger is that I went to predominantly white schools and universities, and half of my jobs have been in predominantly white workplaces.

    I can understand her having no white friends, but not having Asian, Indian and Hispanic friends. And yet we’re supposed to believe that her lack of white “friends” is not due to an overtly antiwhite attitude? Yeah, right.

    She’s either lying about having Asian, Indian and Hispanic friends or she’s leaving something out. As hard a time as blacks have with co-existing with whites, they have an even harder time getting along with other races.

  • Spartacus

    I have no dark-skin friends, nor will I ever . Period .

    • Whitetrashgang

      Funny think I got a rescue dog with white hair on top but dark skin underneath, now I have to sleep with one eye open for the next 5 to 10 years.

  • So CAL Snowman

    I checked out her twitter feed because I like seeing things that are ridiculous and easily lampooned. That being said, I did find this gem and I laughed pretty hard because it’s so true, she actually understands that Euros have higher standards than blacks! :

    “RT @roslynholcomb #blackpowerisforblackmen because BW are held to a Euro beauty standard but BM aren’t held to a Euro financial standard.”

    Even a blind squirrel finds an acorn occasionally . . .

    RT @GradientLair: #blackpowerisforblackmen When BM claim WW are “more supportive.” U mean “supportive” like Zimmerman’s jury? Oh… << damn

    • Formerly_Known_as_Whiteplight

      “Even a blind squirrel finds an acorn occasionally . . .”

      This is because they search by scent, not sight.

      My nose often tells me who to avoid.

  • libertarian1234

    “I Don’t Have Any White Friends. So What?”

    The reason for that is not because of the “color of your skin,” it’s because of your disgusting loud mouth, you’re rude behavior and your lack of intelligence.

    And, “no” I don’t believe you have any Indian friends at all, nor, actually any Hispanic friends either. The only reason you say that is to try to make it appear as if all “people of color” have much in common….and all of you are on one side with whites on the other…. when the fact of the matter is that….in general….other non-whites don’t like blacks as a group either, most of them much less so than whites.

    Haven’t you noticed? Blacks and Hispanics are fighting constantly throughout the country. It’s the same with Asians, but their numbers are smaller so there’s not as much of it.

    And just to clarify one other thing, it isn’t just the “color of your skin” that sets you apart from whites. Besides the aforementioned deplorable traits, you have kinky hair, thick lips and a flat nose.

    And I’m mentioning that because when you complain about somebody not liking blacks “because of the color of their skin,” I want to clarify the point that it amounts to far more than that, and that the color of a person’s skin has very little to do whites not liking them.

    • kjh64

      It’s not their form of hair, lips or nose, it’s the behavior and attitude of so many Blacks that turns Whites off.

      • HJ11

        Actually, it is their hair, lips, nose and everything else about them that says they are not my kind.

        We have eyes to help with our survival. Survival often requires that we quickly know who is us and who is not us. Blacks are not us.

        • kjh64

          I was talking about the reasons many Blacks are disliked. It’s their behavior and attitude. You can however recognize that someone is not the same but not dislike them. I recognize that the Chinese are not the same but I don’t dislike them.

    • Whitetrashgang

      Also they stink and their skin is like rubber, and they look blue or purple in different light.

  • Well, let’s see: I’m 3/16 east-coast American Injun and married to a Japanese. One of my friends in my neighborhood is Thai, and I’m decent terms with the old HOA chaiman, who’s a Christian Arab. As an undergrad, in California, I had a few Chinese friends. As a grad student in Sydney, most of my friends were Chinese. Here, nearly everyone I know is white. I do not now and never will have a black friend.

    • Luca

      Whites and Asians can mix, respect each other, relate to each other and are to a degree, compatible. This would be because of higher intelligence and similar values.

      Whites and blacks on the other hand are as different as, well, night and day, when it comes to intelligence and values.

      • pcmustgo

        uh, as someone with decades of experience living in NYC, I would beg to differ with that.

        Whites and Asians have probably a similar relationship Latinos have to Blacks. Everyone assumes we’re best buddies.

        Asians are getting more and more into that ethno-activism and white-bashing, know what I mean?

        • 1stworlder

          He meant to say east Asians

          • pcmustgo

            Yes, I know… I am talking about East Asians. I would beg to differ they mingle seamlessly with whites, especially in large numbers.

        • Jesse James

          Yes I have noticed that Asians in general are very standoffish with whites in the area where I live. They seem to be here to establish ethnic colonies for their homelands not mix in the American melting pot.

      • pcmustgo

        I can respect parts of Asian culture but cannot “relate” to their frosty and boring, conformist demeanors.

        • pcmustgo

          I’m not sure I like their pushy-shovy immigrant values either.

        • They were boring back in the early 1990’s until I asked Masamichi, “Do you and Junko want to come over for chile rellenos and then go shooting?”

          Of course they did.

    • Whitetrashgang

      In 5 years or less it will be a crime not to have a black friend, best to get a sheboon while you can.

      • Magician

        In 10 years it will be illegal for blond white women not to get laid with black man

  • Luca

    It is very rare indeed for Whites and blacks to have any sincere or lasting friendship or relationship.

    One day, a very slight splinter of an insult will occur in the mind of the eternal victim (like Oprah’s purse fantasy) and that will be the end of the story.

    • Nick Gherz

      I my wayward youth, I had black ‘friends’.
      Inevitably I got burned, counted my losses & learned from the experience.

      • pcmustgo

        I also had a “wayward youth” full of “wild child” friends.

  • pcmustgo

    Wow, amazing to meet someone who’s been through the same thing. Yes, I would truly know. When you have experience with dozens upon dozens of blacks, asians, whites, etc, you can compare and contrast and truly see the patterns.

    Most Asians even did not seem very receptive to me and did not stick around long in my life. They seemed to be all about their “asian-american” social circle. Made me feel like a fool for befriending them. Which left me feeling, what’s the point? Why am I being so nice to everyone of every race and getting NOTHING in return? Because I was always such a giver in life and always so obsessed with being fair minded. Oh wait, nothing but some nasty, racially charged comments that reveal their inner hatred of white women, that’s what I got.

    I hated all of this because it changed me from “that nice person” to this. Somewhat bitter about it. But I have to be nice to myself too. I’m now nice to myself by avoiding known racial enemies. It’s nothing personal, just self-preservation.

    • Jefferson

      Why do you ALWAYS leave out Hispanics when naming all of the Nonwhite races in the world. Especially since you live in New York City where the vast majority of Hispanics are Puerto Rican and Dominican.

      The Dominican Republic and Puerto Rico are nowhere near as White as Spain.

      Be honest with me now, is the reason why you refuse to label these groups as Nonwhite is because you personally see them as just another White ethnic group just like Serbians and Czechs for example ?

      • Hispanic isn’t a “race”. Hispanics are Spanish-speakers. but while of usually European-Amerindian mixture, can also be mulattoes (the Dominican Republic) or Zambos – black/Amerind crosses (the late Hugo Chavez).

        “Turkish” isn’t really a race, either. Turkic speakers look quite Asian in Singkiang and quite southern European in eastern Thrace.

        These are just references to a specific language.

        • pcmustgo

          duh

      • pcmustgo

        Because, I did not have as many friendship or racist experiences or experiences period with Latinas/Latinos. I mostly wound up mingling with Blacks and East Asians, bizarrely enough. I have had some Latina friends, but did not find them to hate whites, found their personalities agreeable and warm enough, and just didn’t have as many negative incidents with them.

        Which doesn’t mean I think Latinos and Whites necessarily mix well- most have nothing in common.

        I of course know Latinos are mixed race… right down to the Taino blood that runs in Puerto Ricans and Dominicans.

        • pcmustgo

          Latinas actually have pretty likable, bubbly, warm personalities.

          I do have one friend down in Puerto Rico I have visited. Of course, we aren’t super close, but I never found her to hate whites , care at all about “pc”, be into identity politics or politics at all, etc.

          I know Latinos can fight too much though, and have all too much violence in their culture and lower iqs.

        • pcmustgo

          Many Latinos though are half white, so it would be understandable, when you think about it, that we find them to be more “like us” than, ugh, Asians… They are certainly never accused of being “emotionally cold”.

      • pcmustgo

        Hey, Jeffereson, are you aware that ASIANS ARE NOT WHITE? Just wondering… *wink.

    • pcmustgo

      And the vast bulk of Asians I met (not all, but a good 80%) were the “no-personality”, simple, quiet, frigid, boring immigrant types. So unlike me. Truly alien.

      • I avoided Japanese and distrusted them at first as well. One of the Japanese industrial spies broke into my office routinely. This one also mercilessly cheated on his wife and told everyone how stupid she was. When I finally met her, she turned out to be a very pretty gal, who spoke good English. It ruined if for him, though I never said anything at all.

        Another one of them used to take his wife shooting with me. He was from Matsushita and easy to teach, and I would not care to be fired upon by him. He was a probable “natural” offhand with a Kar-98k, which is pretty good.

        Why did I take Japanese shooting?

        Those guys had never done it before, and I always wanted an excuse to go shooting back then. I also wanted to make sure they got it right, because I’m a good teacher and because as a good teacher, I care. Noboyuki and Takeo might have to kill North Koreans someday.

        • pcmustgo

          I like the Japanese the best out of all the asians, or rather, find them most assimilated, polite, tolerable… maybe there’s a reason the Japanese hate all the other asian groups.

          • Terra Magnum Imperium

            Have to give the Japanese credit, The only Asians that tried to out white the white man. Due to Both countries mistrust of China, Japan and the USA are likely to remain allies for the foreseeable future.

  • pcmustgo

    Forgot to mention “the strain”, “the awkwardness”, “the wall between us” that goes with attempting to be friends with those of too-different backgrounds.

  • APaige

    She laments and laughs at ‘tokenism’, how does she think she went to white schools and obtained jobs in white workplaces?

  • Jefferson

    I live in a city where only 6 percent of the population is Black, so I don’t have any Black friends. But even if I lived in a city where 66 percent of the population is Black, I still would not got out of my way to look for Black friends.

    • pcmustgo

      Ah, and what percent are Asian? Does living in a lily-white area make you an expert on asian-white relations too? Ah yes, but they’re are a few asians there that get along great with whites! Well, with white men. The asian wives of white males. Yes, diversity is working great.

      • ShermanTMcCoy

        I’m Irish-German and my wife is Russian-Ukrainian. We and our kids speak English, German and Russian. Plenty of diversity in my house.

  • Viv Jasper

    Despite being brought up around a lot of diversity, I have never had a black friend. Sure, I’ve been rather fond of a few black colleagues, but none whose company I would seek outside of work. Right now my friends are exclusively white. I never made a conscious effort to exclude anyone; I just let nature run its course. It just happens that I am naturally drawn to my own kind.

  • Nick Gherz

    I have no black friends, although, in truth, some of my coworkers are black
    and I enjoy working with some of them because of their strong work ethic.

    • Luca

      I see you have a pipe in your mouth, so the question begs..what the hell are you smoking?

    • ShermanTMcCoy

      Good one, Nick!

  • Is this woman paid to “tweet”?

  • Truthseeker

    I see this article as a positive thing. Here’s a non-white openly saying she doesn’t care whether whites want to associate with her, and has no problems with whites preferring the company of other whites. Little by little, perhaps we racially-conscious whites are getting closer to having our views accepted by the mainstream.

    Most people, if they’re being honest, don’t like diversity for it’s own sake, if at all. Most people just want to be around those who are like them. If a white person says that, of course, it’s dismissed as an example of how “racism is still alive” and makes a handy pretext for the next round of lost rights. If a non-white person says it, maybe it’ll wake up the persuadable to the fact that this attitude isn’t confined to whites and their “hatred,” but comes from a human nature that transcends race. From there, it should be obvious that forcing diversity on people is counterproductive and makes everybody unhappy.

    • pcmustgo

      Google “diversity-fatigue”… I can’t tell you how much I can relate to that term. I am literally EXHAUSTED by diversity. And am constantly overwhelmed by it here in NYC.

  • Romulus

    “People should pick their friends on who they mesh with”
    That is precisely why I don’t have any true friends of color. A seargent(black) I remember from the service once told me why he had no true white friends. “Liking leads to loving, loving leads to mixing”

  • Evette Coutier

    I have a loyal, intelligent, and loving black friend. He is my boarder collie.

    • skara_brae

      Is he paying rent to stay with you or is he a border collie?

      • Evette Coutier

        He is in fact a border collie. However, he pays his rent in his own way. He keeps a sharp eye on the place and is an exceptional watchdog.

  • MBlanc46

    Self-segregation, yes!

  • Funruffian

    If a White person had written this article we know what the collective reaction would be – “You’re a racist”. This woman’s comfortable delusion of why she hasn’t any White friends is not with her choices and options. Most black females cannot obtain a White friend.

    • Magician

      If a white Christian guy said this he would be behind bars by now

  • pcmustgo

    Latinos and Blacks do share their fondness for hip-hop culture, thug life, gangs, etc.

  • IKantunderstand

    May I be honest with you, Ms. Lucas? I know, I know, the way things are nowadays, only people who aren’t White are permitted to express their true feelings. Screw it. Here’s how I feel, Ms. Lucas:Whereas, once upon a time, Whites would have been willing, if not eager, to be friends with Blacks, that ship has sailed. I personally, found Blacks to be charming, insightful, funny and charmingly self-deprecating. I once believed Blacks to be as smart as Whites, but held down by discrimination, and prejudice. Then, of course, I entered adulthood. I have worked with Blacks. Excuse me, I meant to say, that I worked, and there were Blacks surrounding me in the workplace. This did not just happen once.No, indeed, it happened every time. Are there Blacks who work their butts off? I assume, statistically speaking, there must be some. Have I witnessed it personally? NO. The majority of Blacks I have had contact with in the business world, have clearly gotten there by affirmative action. Now, the Blacks that I have been charmed by, were all Blacks with whom I attended college. Let me explain something to you, Ms. Lucas, it is exceedingly difficult for a White person to be friends with a Black. You Blacks are hyper sensitive to ANYTHING that smacks of racism, in your view. To be friends with Blacks, requires a skill above the ability of walking on eggshells. Frankly, despite your potential collective charm, it is not worth it. Regardless of the fact that the mainstream media shows commercials, and T.V. shows with Whites mixing blissfully with Blacks, you and I know it is a lie. The weight of the chip on your collective shoulders, is insurmountable. By the way, all the Indians and Chinese I know, aren’t crazy about Black people either.

    • Frans

      I’m having a hard time with the adjectives, charming, insightful, funny. I’ve worked with many blacks over the years and never met even one that would fit that description.

  • Unperson

    “pretty much everyone I invite out and interact with everywhere I go (except for work or other business endeavors) is black or “of color.”
    I see. So us ofays be good for something, huh? Don’t mind associating with us as long as you’re getting $$$ out of the arrangement. Odd how you can find plenty of nonwhite friends but no nonwhite employers or business associates.

  • Magician

    That is certainly an awesome attitude my darling, but a lot of your male peers have quite a few of our white girls in their arms… especially ones with a few extra pounds.

    I also encourage men and women of all races that it is never ever necessary to go out of your way and force yourself to make friends of different ethnicity. The ethnicity of the friends you have, do not define you or determine your happiness. You are the only one in this world responsible for your own happiness.

  • WR_the_realist

    I’ve worked with a few blacks. Some competent, some not so competent. None were my friends. So what? Frankly, it’s only the media that seems to obsess over who our friends are.

  • throttler

    I don’t have any black friends. So what?

  • Bardon Kaldian

    I doubt she has Asian, Hispanic, Indians “friends”. Not that I care, but it seems highly unlikely.

    • bubo

      That struck me as weird, too. Especially the Indians and Asians, who tend to be pretty closed off to outsiders.

  • disqus_Xz3UA6obwj

    Good friends are hard to find period and the qualities that make a good friend do not depend on race as far as I am concerned. We all set our own standards and use our own criteria I guess. All my friends happen to be white but it is their honesty, intelligence and sharing of similar interests that determined this, not their race, sex or sexual orientation.

  • pcmustgo

    I know all too well about asian women’s resentment towards white women… I told people on here about that comment some random asian chick made out loud about “generic white female personalities” while out at a restaurant. I’ve had many other creepy run-ins with them. Asian comediennes are always ragging on white women being sluts, etc.

    • pcmustgo

      Demonizing white women- their sexual competition/enemies…. Cause don’t forget, a good chunk of white males with asian women are the ones who will date either/or… like either white or asian or sometimes latina. So pretty much the only competition for Asian women in terms of white men is- white women. And the reverse is also true.

  • Herman

    Black people never seem to go out of their way to make friends with white people.
    Black males chasing after young white women is the obvious exception.
    Blacks can justify their failures if whites are considered to be evil or unfriendly.

    • pcmustgo

      Actually, on the internet, they do. I would know, I am a member of an internet friendship site. I’m talking friendship here. Many upper middle class black women desperately want a (novel) white friend. As do the asians. Then when you go to meet them, they act sullen and standoffish or rude. They like the idea of “diverse” friendships and many are into white men now that they’ve realized the stats on their own men, and need a “white friend” (female) to be an accessory to that. In the past I would have gladly played this role for them (and the asians and other races), but I tell them bluntly about the dozens of reasons I’m through with interracial friendships. Many appreciate my honesty, others get angry.

      • pcmustgo

        Correction, they like the “idea” of a “white friend” and the “idea” of a white boyfriend. Novelty all the way.

  • Herman

    Black people don’t even get along with each other.
    But whites are expected to be their dear friends.
    The same way they are in TV and the movies.

  • Bleakvision

    To be honest, as a central European I avoid south Europeans if possible. Portugese, Spaniards, and Greeks do not measure up to my standards for “white”. The same goes for Italians from south of Tuscany. It’s the loud talking and impulsiveness that make these people unbearable for me.

  • concernedcollegekid

    This is truth to what you say, but my observation is that whites who have met and befriended “talented tenth” blacks but have never been around the ghetto types are often extremely averse to the idea of racial differences because they believe that all blacks could be like their black friend if only they weren’t stuck in “poverty”. I think if I hadn’t gone to a diverse high school but I knew the exceptional blacks I do now, I would likely not be on this website.

    Most blacks who have actual white friends are the talented tenth type. I think in order for whites to become race realists about blacks specifically, it’s usually very important for them to have experience with the hopeless blacks who do not immerse themselves in the white world.

    • pcmustgo

      Hmmm, talented tenth types are often upper middle class types and often afrocentric types. It’s documented that upper middle class blacks are even more angry at america than lower class blacks, so I’m not sure talented tenth blacks make any better friends for white people either. Many also hate whites, just in a more intellectual way.

      The most likely Black to have real white friends (I had one just like this, a black male friend) are OREOS… those who grew up in all white, suburban neighborhoods. I had a black male friend who not only preferred white women but only had white male friends- true friends Popular guy. And yet still talked that afro-centric/in-denial/liberal smack.

      • pcmustgo

        The Obama election ended our friendship. Or rather he couldn’t handle my comments on Obama, and turned all creepy, 1000% for Obama, Obama-is-God, and I defriended him.

        • pcmustgo

          Sad, he was actually a good friend to me and a talented artist, but yeah, if you’re going to get all creepy racially on me you’ll learn your lesson- you get nothing from me. He also began lying about things he had said in the past- I don’t like liars.

  • newscomments70

    I suggest being acquainted with a minority or two, not necessarily close, but on speaking terms. When I was a naive younger person, blacks and hispanics were the ones that told me about anti-white hatred. They told me which neighborhoods to stay out of and why. They informed that the liberal cumbaya nonsense was laughed at in their communities. “Don’t be naive!”, they would warn me, “These people HATE you!”. Talking with them almost serves as reconnaissance. In high school, I had a partial scholarship to a college in South Chicago. A black kid from that region warned me, “Don’t go there, the blacks will get you. A scholarship isn’t worth your life”. When the liberals were raving about vacationing in Cuba, I thought about going there. A Cuban I know commented, “Oh they would love a blond boy like you. They would rob you blind, don’t go there. ” A Mexican professor I met from USC some years ago warned me that Mexicans here are to take over. Stay out of their neighborhoods, they HATE you. His aunt growing up told him, “Kill white people. If you see a white baby, kill it, run it over with a car.” The list goes on. I do suggest knowing some minorities, at least superficially. It’s best to know your enemy. They will give you even more information than a nationalist source.

    • pcmustgo

      Those are pretty extreme examples.

  • BarnyL

    Then they’re back in their own countries. Then I’ll be their friend.

    How many freeloaders and gate crashers do you call friend?

  • pcmustgo

    They’re bad for your mental health. The “drama” of interracial interactions is just too much.

  • pcmustgo

    Another slur for whites is rice maggots. I think the Asians came up with that one.

  • pcmustgo

    Well the Asians and Indians are so ethnically cliquish and clannish they have no qualms about excluding whites too. Whites lack the guts to exclude the other groups and have no identity… until they’ve learned the hard way and become like us.

  • pcmustgo

    I live in a highly diverse, white ethnic, immigrant heavy area as well. But I don’t make friends in my hood, I make friends through other avenues and have enough. I have most in common with artsy folk, but they’re all white liberals, so that separation is hardest. But yeah, my lifestyle here is totally Grand Torrino, totally Bowling Alone. I’m the only “american” here.

    • pcmustgo

      predominantly white ethnic, but super diverse with all other races of immigrants and some blacks too at the same time. True Diversity.

  • Greg Thomas

    Blacks celebrate the fact they have no White friends and are even allowed to write about it
    without facing repercussions. A “poll” comes out claiming most Whites have no
    black friends and the entire White race is vilified. I see how this works.

  • thatcher76

    Funny thing I noticed. Friend of the family recently got married, he is a stereotypical liberal. Has all the views of a liberal, whether about race or anything else. They had a big old wedding with tons of people. Everyone with the exception of ONE guy was white. And the one guy was a black guy married to a white woman. Oh yeah, and he was a doctor too.

  • thatcher76

    Ha, run into that quite a lot from blacks. I remember in high school I sat behind this one black girl. I noticed she was always talking about race. So I decided to log it. I kept a note book and every time she mentioned race I tallied it. She averaged about 5 comments a day in that one class over the month I logged her. Blacks are obsessed by race.

  • The Final Solution

    Looking forward to watching 12 Years a Slave and cheering as Michael Fassbender cracks the whip.

  • celtthedog

    I’d bet her welfare check that, despite her claims, she doesn’t have any Indian or Asian friends either. Hispanic yes; white, Indian, Asian, no.

  • Terra Magnum Imperium

    I am also guarded when an Asian woman or even another race shows interest in me or whites in general. It’s been my experience that most races are attracted to their own both physically and mentally, if given the choice they would choose a mate from the same race.
    1. White Fetish,this personally creeps me out, because she’s not in to your personality and who knows what other mental illnesses are lurking in her brain.
    2. Meal-Ticket, Many Asian women and others see a white male as a walking ATM. they would rather date Asian but money talks,
    3. Curious, Just wants to try something different, nothing serious.
    4. Attraction to a different race, being that most of us find our own race the most attractive so I find this hard to believe.
    Maybe someone whom is biracial or had a bad experience my fall into this category.
    5. Stuff in common, or just being nice. She still feels her race is more Physically attractive but hey he’s cute and you just click.
    Just some psycho-babble, if anyone can think of any other reasons let me know.